It was very simple, elegant and beautiful. She would have loved it. It was done by a retired Catholic priest at the chapel at the funeral home. I was struck by the fact he said the eternal rest prayer kind of backwards...rest eternal, light perputual. I guess it doesn't matter but it was odd. She did not want a traditional Catholic funeral. We had lovely music which had a Cape Breton/Irish sound to them as she was from Nova Scotia. The flowers were lovely and upfront displayed during the funeral was the scrapbook layout I made and the urn my dh turned. He read the eulogy. I can only imagine how hard that was. Catherine cried. That made me cry. After the service we went outside and each child had a balloon and released them. We watched them fly away to Grandma Kay in heaven until we couldn't see them anymore.
I learned a few things
1. You never know when it is your time. Stillborn-110...whenever God wants.
2. Signs and miracles do happen. There have been a few. The oddest being the funeral home is 2 blocks from the house Kay and her husband built, the house my dh grew up in. The eulogy papers were in BIL hands and they flew out of his hand. Over the roof tops onto the lawn of the house they grew up in. All 8 pages of it were together.
3. Appreciate what you have. More is not always better.
4. In the end all you have what counts in family.
5. Life is short. Don't waste it.